Tips and Tricks for Throwing a Gainer/Encourager Party

Tips and Tricks 

for throwing a 

Gainer/Encourager Party

Over the past few weeks I've had the wonderful opportunity to throw a few cocktail parties for a handful of friends from BeefyFrat, and attend a dinner party that had solely gainer and/or encourager types in attendance. It's been pretty awesome, but also, as a host, taught me that it's a little more complex than one might originally anticipate. Here are a few of the things I've learned.

Tip 1: Sturdy Chairs are an absolute fucking must!

Well, you know what they say -it's not a real BeefyFrat cocktail party until someone breaks a chair. Know your guests, and make sure you have adiquate seating, both for the number of people coming and the size of your bigger guests. Even though my BF is a pretty big guy at about 300, there really is a big difference between 300 pounds and 400 pounds when it comes to what a chair is willing to support. Don't go crazy, but be thoughtful about the realities of the party your planning.

Tip 2: If people are bringing things, try to coordinate (and don't feel bashful about asking people to bring stuff!)

This is kind of obvious, but, you really would be amazed at how one tracked gainer and encourager minds can be with what they feel like bringing to a party -if you leave guests totally to their own devices, it's pretty easy to end up with a fridge full of the ever fattening favorite, Juniors cheesecake, and little else (not that this is a bad thing, especially if your gainer boyfriend ends up eating all leftover cheesecake). But don't be afraid to divide up what you want your guests to bring -usually having something like guests with last names a-m bring some sort of beverage and guests n-z bring some sort of fun dessert will leave your party balanced, boozed up, and stuffed.

Tip 3: Realize it's not going to be a crazy sex orgy, so don't worry about that!

While I'm sure if you really felt like organizing a wild gainer orgy it wouldn't be all that difficult, anyone you're planning on inviting is prolly just as nervous about it turning into some sort of crazy belly rubbing sex party, and even with the addition of tons of alcohol, it most likely won't go that road, so, relax.

Tip 4: Make sure even if you have snacks and such, that you have a good plan for grabbing a more major meal.

Again, pretty obvious but, gainers get hungry, so, make sure you have a plan for getting a real meal, if you're not serving one. Non-gainers get hungry when they drink, and gainers are going to want to eat if your party lasts for more than one cocktail (as it should), so be prepared.

Tip 5: Respect peoples boundaries.

Everyone has different comfort zones, so, try to be respectful. Some guys have no problem with you going up and rubbing their belly, but, it's a fairly personal thing to do, so, be sensitive. It's important to learn a bit about a person (like if they're in a relationship, for example), before copping a feel. A simple point, but, an important one.

Tip 6: Just do it!

If you throw a party with a bunch of gainers and encouragers, you will have a fantastic time. It's very affirming to hang around with a bunch of guys that feel the same way you do -I'd compare the experience to the first time I was ever in a gay bar, and I thought to myself "Gee, everyone here is OK with the fact that I'm gay." Dropping all of the internalized second guessing that comes from not wanting everyone in your life to know that you love gaining, even if just for a few hours, is fantastic.